When the Warren G. Harding boys soccer team won its first tournament match in program history on Wednesday night, coach Tilden Tatebe was grinning from ear to ear.
From outside appearances, one couldn't guess that the 7-1 win over Bedford had a downside for Tatebe. After years of dreaming and hoping for that elusive postseason win, advancing past the first round gave him a time conflict that he somewhat foresaw, but didn't think would happen given the lack of tournament success at the school.
On Saturday, Tatebe's eldest son, Caleb, will be getting married in Warren, while his Raiders will travel to Aurora High School to take on the Greenmen at 7 p.m. in a Division I sectional final.
Going into the wedding planning, Tilden said he and his son were well aware of the postseason schedule, as Caleb is a member of the coaching staff and had held the single-season saves record at the school with 148 during the 2007 season, but instead of finding another date, Caleb and his bride-to-selected Oct. 19 for the date.
This did send some alarm bells for Tilden, but at the same time, he didn't consider the idea of the Raiders going past the first round of the tournament.
"We knew and he knew, but we never thought that we would get to the second game," Tilden said. "So he scheduled it, but in the back of my mind, I thought, 'This could happen.' Of course, it did. But it is what it is."
A favorable draw with a winless Bedford team at home made that possibility into a reality, and now, Tilden needs to find a way to be in two places at once.
Tilden and Harding tried to get the time of the match switched so at least he could coach his team when it faces the first seed in the Kent district, Aurora had not agreed to a change as of print time on Wednesday night.
Therefore, Tilden must choose between his players and his family, and although it's a tough one to make, Tilden said he will be in attendance for his eldest son's big day.
Meanwhile, Tilden's middle son, Micah, faces a similar situation. The senior midfielder plays for the Raiders and despite the fact he's he's missed the last few weeks with a season-ending injury, he still acts like a captain by dishing out advice from the touchline. Needless to say, he will want to be with his teammates and be there for his brother.
While it directly affects the family's plans for the day, it also disrupts the plans of the entire coaching staff, which was invited to the wedding and the reception. Between Jim Allison and Dan Sweet, the two non-Tatebe coaches on the Harding roster, someone will have to lead the Raiders into uncharted waters.
"It's going to be tough, but I obviously have to go to my son's wedding," Tilden said. "It's going to be hard because my heart's going to be with my team, with my boys who I love, but my first obligation is to my son."
Even if Tilden can't be there in person, I'm sure he'll be there in spirit - or at least following the match via text message during the wedding festivities.