Three things we need to hear

There are three things that we all need to hear from time to time. They are:

Don’t give up.

Everyone wants to be understood.

You are loved.

One evening, I flipped on the TV in time to hear and see a very lively Josh Groban rushing across the stage in a very large venue, singing those words to the crowd. They were cheering for him, reaching up to him. He recklessly reached back, touching hands, encouraging them, his own face radiant with the belief to back up his words.

What would it mean to you to hear and experience these three things every day?

Here’s what I hope they might mean: Don’t give up.

In this world, every day is a battle against evil, sickness, depression, thoughtlessness, work stress, family issues, road rage, bone tiredness, financial discord, worries of small and great magnitude. Some days, we wonder why we don’t just give up.

Just when we’ve had enough – or more than enough – the sun sets and rises again and we get up once more to give it another try.

How do we do that? I think we do it because we are glad to be given another chance. We have hope that today will be better and we’re encouraged because we got out of bed in spite of what happened yesterday. We may even be thrilled when we realize that we actually made it to today.

Everyone wants to be understood.

Honestly, most of us just want to be heard and really listened to by someone, anyone.

When you meet a person who needs to talk, what do you do? Do you sit quietly listening to every word? Do you notice how the other person looks as they speak? Can you discern the inflection in their voice – angry, sad, discouraged, happy, excited? Do you keep your mind clear so you can hear, really hear them or are you thinking about the list of errands hot in your pocket? Do you let them speak fully before you respond?

You may not completely understand what their situation is but if you sit with them and listen carefully, and reply or ask thoughtful questions, they’ll feel heard and understood. What a wonderful gift you’ll have given them!

You are loved.

If that is true, then why don’t I feel that way?

In our culture, we’re constantly bombarded with the idea that we must compare ourselves to just about everyone else. Are there going to be those prettier or more handsome than you? Yep. Are there those who are smarter or more athletic than you? Probably. Will they be richer or more talented than you? Maybe.

Will they be more deserving of love than you? No.

Why not?

Frankly, because every person, man or woman, young or old, rich or poor, smart or not so smart, puts their pants on in the same way: one leg at a time. God, in his infinite wisdom, made it that way to level the playing field.

1 Corinthians 13 describes real love this way: Love is patient, kind, doesn’t envy or boast and is not proud; it doesn’t dishonor others, isn’t self-seeking, isn’t easily angered and keeps no record of wrongs; it doesn’t delight in evil; it does rejoice in the truth. Love always protects, trusts, hopes and perseveres. Love never fails. Of the three, faith, hope and love, love is the greatest of all.

This is a picture of how God loves us. Perfectly.

Honestly, I see nothing here saying that love is dependent on who you are or where you’ve come from. It seems to me that in this description, you are loved in a very simple and easy manner, stripped of every human judgment. This kind of love is heart changing to the core. It’s a gift that says you are loved without any “buts.”

When Josh Groban told his audience “You are loved” everyone wanted to believe him. Maybe you do, too. Don’t give up.

For a love story worth watching, go to and type in “Wright’s Law: A Unique teacher Imparts Real Life Lessons.”

Jagunic is a Cortland resident. Email her at